Comparison

Posted on 17/Jan/2014

SO, THE OTHER DAY ON YAHOO SHINE I SAW A PICTURE OF THIS DUDE WEARING A KID IN A BABY WEARING THINGY WHILE BRUSHING ANOTHER KID’S HAIR AND THOUGHT, AW LOOK DAD IS HANDLING BUSINESS. IT REMINDED ME OF THE SAILOR, THE SAILOR HANDLES HIS DAD BUSINESS…

AND THEN MY FACEBOOK TIMELINE WENT BOOM; THE PICTURE WAS EVERYWHERE, AND I THOUGHT, WOW WHAT NEAT MOMENT CAPTURED. IT IS PARENTHOOD COVERED IN CUTENESS, PARENTHOOD IS HARD, YET THOSE EVERYDAY MOMENTS WHEN CAPTURED SERVE AS A GOOD REMINDER THAT EVERY DAY HAS IT SPECIAL, TOO.

THOSE EVERY DAY, IT IS MY JOB AS A PARENT MOMENTS THAT SOMETIMES RUN TOGETHER THAT I TAKE FOR GRANTED; WELL, THOSE MOMENTS THEY TURN INTO DAYS THAT TURN INTO WEEKS THAT TURN INTO MONTHS THAT TURN INTO YEARS. AND THEN THE LITTLE ONE ISN’T SO LITTLE ANYMORE… I, FOR ONE, WANT TO APPRECIATE THEM.

“WRITE IT ON YOUR HEART THAT EVERY DAY IS THE BEST DAY IN THE YEAR.”
― RALPH WALDO EMERSON

THIS PERSON, THIS DAD, CAPTURED A REALLY SWEET, SPECIAL MOMENT BETWEEN HIM AND HIS DAUGHTERS… WHY NOT CELEBRATE THE EVERY DAY, IT IS YOUR JOB MOMENTS OF PARENTHOOD? IT ISN’T CURING CANCER OR WALKING ON THE MOON; IT IS, HOWEVER, SOMETHING SPECIAL, NOT EVERYTHING IS EPIC, SO WHY NOT EMBRACE, ENJOY, AND AS FELLOW PARENTS ACKNOWLEDGE THE AWESOME, SIMPLE EVERYDAY MOMENTS BETWEEN PARENT AND CHILD?

THERE WERE POSTINGS AND COMMENTS THAT CONVEYED THE SENTIMENT THAT AWARDING PARENTHOOD WELL NOT PARENTHOOD, DADDY THAT DADDIES DON’T DESERVE MEDALS, SITTING HIGH AND MIGHTY PLACING JUDGEMENT ON WHAT IS VIRAL WORTHY, AH-MAY-ZING-LY TRIVIAL, WHILE OTHERS MADE RIDICULOUSLY MEAN, CRUEL COMMENTS SMOTHERED IN JEALOUSY AND IGNORANCE… ABSURD!

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HY·POC·RI·SY
NOUN: HYPOCRISY; PLURAL NOUN: HYPOCRISIES
1. THE PRACTICE OF CLAIMING TO HAVE MORAL STANDARDS OR BELIEFS TO WHICH ONE’S OWN BEHAVIOR DOES NOT CONFORM; PRETENSE.

REALLY, SERIOUSLY, THAT’S WHAT RUFFLES TAIL FEATHERS. YET, PEOPLE CHEER ON ENTERTAINERS, WATCH AWARD SHOWS, SPORTSMAN GET TROPHIES, BUT PEOPLE MAKE A PICTURE OF A DAD GO VIRAL, AND OTHERS ARE GOING TO GET THEIR KNICKERS IN A KNOT. WHY, ALL BECAUSE DADDIES DON’T DESERVE MEDALS THAT’S WHY. I GUESS ONE MORE THING FOR SOMEONE OUT THERE TO JUDGE, WATCH AND POLICE, TO WHICH ZFG.

SEVERAL FRIENDS OF MINE, BOTH OF THE PARENT AND NON-PARENT KIND SHARED THE PHOTO, AND I CAN SAY WITH CERTAINTY THAT THESE WOMEN WERE NOT “VOMITING ON [SIC] THEMSELVES TO BE THE FIRST TO CONGRATULATE HIM AND GIVE HIM KUDOS FOR GOING ABOVE AND BEYOND OR WHATEVER IT IS THAT THEY THINK HE’S DONE.”

AREN’T FEELINGS OF ENVY, AND WASTED THOUGHTS OF ‘THIS GLORIFIES THE DAD WHILE TAKING AWAY FROM MOM’, OR BETTER YET, THE MOM/DAD COMPARISON, ‘MOMS DO THIS EVERYDAY’ MENTALITY REALLY JUST COUNTER PRODUCTIVE, AND BELITTLING TO THOSE MOMS WHO ARE CONFIDENT WITHOUT THE NEED TO COMPARE?

“COMPARISON IS THE DEATH OF JOY.”
― MARK TWAIN

THERE ARE SOME OF US THAT SIMPLY, FOR NO REASON OTHER THAN LIKING WHAT WE SEE, AND FINDING IT OKAY TO GIVE PARENTS SOCIAL MEDIA KUDOS, OR EVEN A BUNCH OF KUDOS, SO MANY THAT IT GOES VIRAL, GETS SHARED ONE BAZILLION TIMES ON FACEBOOK OR TWITTER OR PINTEREST, WHATEVER… UM, WHAT THE FUCK, IT IS THE WORLD WIDE WEB, WHO KNOWS WHAT IS GOING TO FLOAT A PERSONS BOAT AND MOTIVATE THEM TO PRESS THE SHARE BUTTON…

THAT SAME WEEK THE PICTURE OF THE DAD HANDLING HIS DAD BUSINESS MADE ITS WAY AROUND THE INTERWEBS, ANOTHER PICTURE/VIDEO WENT VIRAL; A LITTLE BOY CURSING WEARING NOTHING BUT A DIAPER WHILE MEN ARE HEARD IN THE BACKGROUND SAYING THE MOST VILE, DISGUSTING FILTH… NOW THAT IS MATERIAL WORTH GETTING FURIOUS OVER, BUT THEN AGAIN, WHAT DO I KNOW… I’M NOT THE ALMIGHTY OF THE INTERWEBS.

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